Libido is fairly fragile at times and relies on many different human aspects - emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual - to work in harmony. Here are some things to take into consideration:

Psychological Issues
Confidence - Bad self-image is the worst offender, with weight issues topping the list.
Stress - Most people are a little stressed, but when it starts to affect your sex life, it becomes a problem.
Anxiety - Feeling anxious about sex for whatever reason (perhaps childhood abuse, rape or other fears).

Physical Issues
Physical exercise - Women who exercise regularly have higher sex drives, and more often than not, their periods are less painful and PMS is a lot less severe. Poor diet - Diet plays a major role in painful periods, and in overall happiness and well-being. More energy for life means more energy for sex. Toxic overload - Smoking, pollution, lack of exercise, bad diet, and being overweight all make us feel less well than we should, and these factors also kill our sex drives. PMS - enough said.

Prescription Drugs
Antidepressants - Some antidepressants can increase libido in women, while others reduce it significantly (such as Prozac). Blood pressure drugs - Most blood pressure drugs kill a woman's sex drive, so other drugs may be prescribed to counter this. Sedatives - Medications like Xanax, Diazepam and Valium are known to lower women's sex drive and their ability to be aroused. Other prescription drugs may also affect libido in a negative way.

Recreational Drugs
Ecstasy - is an aphrodisiac, but regular use is bad news as the after-effects of low serotonin is depression. Marijuana - is a libido killer. It also dries the vagina (and mouth) up. Amphetamines - causes sexual dysfunction in both men and women. Opiates (heroin, cocaine) - are linked with the inability to orgasm and low sexual desire.

The first step to improving libido is identifying the possible causes. We hope we have helped!
 

Dear Aunts,
I've spent the last two years supporting my girlfriend of 6 years while she got through the tests and the basic training to become a police officer. Among other things, it meant moving to London, and supporting her so that she could work part time, using the rest of the time to train to get properly fit. Now that she's at last out on the beat, she seems to have developed an extremely large head. She tells me that my job isn't a 'proper' job like hers, as it's only about making money, and not about helping people. She spends more time with her new police friends in the pub than with me. She always told me about her day and what she did, now she tells me that she doesn't want to talk about it and last week she referred to me as 'cling film'. We'd always intended to get married in 2007, but right now I feel really left out and used, and I've been thinking of breaking up with her. Should I?

Dear Cop Wife,
I may be stupid but when did the police help people? Only Joking butch police wanabees! Let's just go over this again. You have moved cities, worked like a fiend to pay the bills, no doubt offered emotionally support for 6 years, which I'm sure she turned down, right! Rubbed her feet, massaged her back and her continent size ego. Some girls are just so damned ungrateful. Hate to be the bearer of bad news but sounds like she's a big over inflated, believing her own hype, and not in touch with reality jobsworth snob.
Let's hope that on her first day of her 'proper job' she nabs some shoplifter red handed and the little Miss or Mr, turns round and slaps her really hard on the chops (that one's for you hon). By then she better be history. Forget marriage smarriage. Her ass should be grass. Lucky escape I say.

Bad Ass Aunt x

Dear Loyal,
I can only agree.

Good Aunt